“Im glad you’ve found happiness.” Have these words ever left your mouth? Or has someone else said it to you?
This is something so many of us say without really thinking about its meaning. The words we use reflect how we think about the world.
Happiness is not something you find, it’s something you create. I didn’t wake up one day happy, but I did wake up one day realising I was unhappy and knew I had to do something about it. The problem is that normal thing to do is to find happiness in things outside of ourselves. It’s too painful to look at who we are, so we throw ourselves into exercise, drinking, friendships, new relationships, business, shopping, food, you name it….
For me, happiness only came when I understood more about my own truth and how I could create happiness without the support of a boyfriend, friends or material things, which all are fine but only last for so long until that empty feeling deep down comes back up.
“HAPPINESS IS YOUR NATURE. IT IS NOT WRONG TO DESIRE IT. WHAT IS WRONG IS SEEKING IT OUTSIDE, WHEN IT IS ALREADY WITHIN YOU.”
Happiness is defined differently to each of us, so firstly you must know how you can feel happy. Making my morning smoothie gives me so much happiness because it tastes so good! Simple things eh?!
—> What are the things that give you a sense of happiness?
—> How can you create happiness in your daily life?
—> And what shouldn’t you do if you want happiness?
Let’s say most of us work an average of 40 hours a week, for 40 years. That’s approximately 76,800 hours spent working. You want one sure fire way to create happiness? LOVE what you do every day. If you don’t, that’s nearly 25% of your adult working life literally SPENT on something that doesn’t make you TRULY happy. Again, this is all relative to each person, but I believe that doing something solely for money or status doesn’t create the happiness we all desire.
Even if you love what you do, are you working in a way that gives you the lifestyle you want? We can love what we do, but still work non stop and not actually have any time to enjoy the now. When I began my coaching business, I made sure I planned my programme, pricing & products around the lifestyle I want to have. Although recently, I found myself lacking passion for the work I was doing. I was caught up on creating systems and business strategies. These were very valuable parts to my business, but solely focusing on this took me out of my creative heart space. So it’s important to be aware of how you’re showing up in your business, health & relationships daily!
T Harv Eker, Oprah, Brendon Burchard and so many other experts teach on developing a conscious awareness to the present moment. That’s where true happiness is. All spiritual teachings will teach you to become more present to the NOW. Then you can anticipate the future with excitement, with eagerness, even if you know there’s struggle.
If you are’t happy with someone or something in your life, you can change it. Like the optician changes the prescription of your lens for you to see more clearly, you can change how you see.
Don’t burden yourself with pools of pessimism, or you might do it for so long that you’ve drowned yourself of hope. Perhaps you may need to work on feeling DESERVING of happiness.
Of all the hurt, heartache, criticism, judgement and disconnection we have felt over our lives, not feeling worthy of happiness is an underlying problem for most people. We must work on how we feel about ourselves first. That is our lens to the world around us.
We can all create happiness, it is a mindset and takes some self awareness to discover what gives you happiness in the terms in which you define it. It is a choice.
When we know the things that makes us happy, we must respect ourselves enough to commit to doing those things. Usually, we are the only one standing in the way of the life we want. Keep a list of all the things that give you a feeling of joy & aliveness somewhere visible and not easily lost. Any time you’re having a stressful day or going through some internal struggles, refer back to your list. Make it as easy as possible for you to have the life you deserve.
Are you truly committed to feeling happy every day? If you are, it’s being conscious in each moment as to who you are being. Happiness is a DAILY practice… to be aware of our thoughts, our feelings and observe who we are being. It is after all, only YOU who can lead you to the life you deserve.
Peace & love