Hello lovely readers,
So I have just enjoyed a few days out In Ibiza visiting my boyfriend, my true love. He is the calmest, most positive person I know with such an incredible energy. It’s not any wonder seeing as though he has lived out in Ibiza for seven years.
It is a wonderful way of life out there. Majority of people think Ibiza is only for clubbing and partying. Yes that’s a huge part of the island and only what we are subjected to in the media over in the UK, but there’s an amazing spirit too. There are so many people from different countries, backgrounds, skill-sets and industries but they all have one thing in common, which I believe to be the most important, their strength of character. They are kind, open minded, happy, loving, they live 100% in their hearts and live every day how they wish to live it. And people ask me why I am moving there? If the people are like that, then I’m all in. In the UK, I find far more people who dislike their job, or who are constantly wanting for more, or feel lost, rather than those who love what they do every single precious minute of their day.
An example of this was highlighted by a young Spanish friend of my boyfriend. He had just recently visited England. He spent a few days in London and spoke of how he couldn’t wait to leave. Most foreigners speak of London very highly,but he wasn’t as complimentary. His reasons were because everyone was so focused on work, they were stressed about going to work, what they had to do while at work, stressed after work because they had such a lousy day. Then when they were in their own time, they were so tired from all their stress, they did nothing but sit, eat junk food and watch some mind numbing TV with a frown that would age them before they even reached 35.
I know too many people like this. There is a focus on a 40 hour work week, and I for one got sucked into the notion when I was self employed that if I wasn’t doing 8 hours a day, then I wasn’t doing enough. However, the 8 hour workday that we know so well was only developed back in the 19th century to save factory workers from excruciating 14 hour days. So why when we live in a technology age do we still work such long hours?!
Working at least 40 hours…which usually ends up being 60 hours when you add in travel time and any overtime, leaves little time to do things we love. Since working full time again I’ve found I don’t do anywhere near as much walking, yoga, reading, meditating, downloading and listening to my favourite music and extra writing. Working so much keeps us unambitious, reliant on convenience food, less inclined to build your knowledge on chasing your own dream leaving you spending your precious time, for 50 hours out of a 168 hour week being told what time you have to start and finish work, or even go on holiday.. all the while helping someone else build their fortune. It’s crazy!!
So the young spaniard was right.
We’ve been led into a culture that has been designed to leave us tired, hungry for indulgence, willing to pay a lot for convenience and entertainment, and most importantly, dissatisfied with our lives so that we continue wanting things we don’t have. We buy so much because it always seems like something is still missing. Yet, once the novelty of the new thing is gone that yearning is still there.
I am forever grateful that I chose to look at my life and realise that this wasn’t the life I wanted to live. The truth is, I looked within myself for the answer. On the surface I was doing well and lived a happy life. I was working full time, earned a good wage, enjoyed my weekends indulging with my friends, highly habituated to the TV and constantly uploading my life onto social media…but I was just existing.
If you sound like how I used to be, then fear not, you can make a change. Being open to change transformed my life. You may just need a little help from someone that’s been through the same.