Why You Can’t Settle in Your Body: And What Embodiment Really Means

The ease in the cells makes swimming in the blood red rivers fun & playful. 

Life has become ease and flow, after years of pushing forcing and go go go. 

I tried so hard to achieve and prove I could do it. 

It exhausted me, day in day out on a never ending rollercoaster where I could never find stead ground. 

Just when I thought I’d found slowness and caught a break, life would spend pu again before I could catch my breath. 

When I finally stepped off that rollercoaster, I crashed massively. I spent 2 months in a little village in Italy, recovering recuperating and setting the foundations for my next chapter. 

And it’s taken patience and time to find what steady ground really feels like after so long in the air. That steady ground was choosing to leave Ibiza and come back to live in England. 

It’s not to do with environment, but for me, this was what I knew I really needed to begin to thrive, instead of just surviving. 

Not only am I in my cells, I feel the weightiness of my bones, and the support and containment of my skin. I no longer have to look outside of myself for that support, for it is in the very structure of my bones. 

What Embodiment Actually Is

Grounding, grounding, grounding. 

It was always a word I heard, and knew. But now it is lived. 

Embodiment isn’t movement. It’s a state of being so connected to your felt sense, to your cells, tissues and blood. 

Anyone can move their body in a way they feel connected to it in the moment, if they try. Although trying then moves it into performance. 

Embodiment is swimming in your rivers of your blood. It’s dancing down the piano keys of your spine with every breath as though each breath is a song.

Embodiment is knowing who you are in your bones. 

Embodiment is descending through the layers of your skin feeling how contained you are in your body. 

It is being who you are in every cell of your being. Knowing that you came from one cell and hold the pore potentiality of the entire universe within you. 

Is it any wonder most people cannot attain this, as they are trapped int the after effects of unhealed trauma that pulses through their veins, that can erupt so easily when activated. And that blood red river inside turns into molten lava. 

Swimming in your own rivers becomes a rush to get out of your own skin, for the thick, burning liquid is roaring inside of you and doesn’t feel safe. 

The Signs You’re Living Above Your Body

Perhaps it’s why you lose your temper easily or erupt into arguments with yoru partner over seemingly insignificant things. 

Perhaps it’s why you can’t be alone, in stillness or ‘doing nothing’

Perhaps it’s why people have to walk on eggshells around you or never tell you how they really feel

Perhaps it’s why you keep yourself busy in work, with the gym, connecting with friends or over indulge in food, alcohol and or porn. 

Anything to keep yourself from actually sitting in your own skin. From feeling the discomfort of that lava running through you, screaming for your attention.

This is why avoidance feels safer than stillness. 

And that’s ok. This is how your nervous system has learned to respond to protect you and keep you safe. 

Why Society Never Taught Us Emotional Processing

And the system isn’t designed to keep you alive and thriving. It’s designed to keep you stuck and surviving… In a system that doesn’t allow for your own freedom, unless you break out of it. 

Living from unhealed trauma, unprocessed emotions and a dis-regulated nervous system will keep you stuck, and looping the same experiences over and over again. 

Imagine if we were taught in our society how to process emotions and handle trauma just like we are taught Maths and English. 

Managing and processing emotions instead of avoiding or being ruled by them, will not only help you feel more grounded, it will give you more ease in your own skin an eventually it will transform your relationships and intimacy. 

When the Lava Begins to Cool

Imagine not having to always run away, and have the tools, skills and resilience to actually FEEL what you feel? 

Imagine not feeling shame for crying as a man. Imagine not feeling judged for your anger as a woman. 

It’s time society normalized emotions. 

It’s time men were given the space to be emotional and let their sadness be expressed instead offing labeled ‘boys don’t cry’ ‘stop being a pussy’

It’s time women were accepted for their full spectrum of e motions and this to be celebrated rather than judged as too much or too sensitive. 

When we allow what we feel to flow through us instead of building up over time the lava begins to cool, and what’s in our blood can rise, what rises isn’t bliss, it’s truth. 

The body doesn’t soften all at once; it loosens in tiny increments, giving you just enough space to breathe again. In that space, you start to feel the quiet parts you’ve ignored for years. The subtle ache beneath the anger, the longing underneath the chaos, the tenderness that never had room. 

This is where authenticity begins to surface too, not as a performance but as the raw, unfiltered you that has been buried under survival. This is where embodiment truly starts: in the courage to stay with yourself long enough for your inner rivers to settle, for your system to remember that safety is possible, and for your cells to trust you again.

And this is where life begins to feel like yours again. Not a performance, not a survival strategy, but a homecoming.

Love Abi x